I have been reviewing some old writings recently, which included insights and epiphanies that helped me to deal with the challenges I faced during a fast-moving period of my life. I thought I might write a book (this book, as it turns out). But maybe my interest in the past was also a little to do with approaching a big birthday. Whilst 'age' is not an institution I subscribe to (as I plan to live to an unconventionally old age, in mint condition), I am aware that I am entering a new phase of my life, which begged the question, 'Who am I?' In this latest extract from my book, 'The Ultimate Relationship... the one with yourself', I reveal the answer.